Sometimes the hardest story to tell is our own. You’ve heard me say many times that I would tell my own secret when I was ready.

Well today I am ready. And I tell it all tonight.

http://bit.ly/f9Lulg

I’ve decided to share it on my friend Vegas Vince’s marketing show because he has this magical way about him where he is one of the most irreverent people I know, and yet he has a fierce respect and love for his fellow men and women – I love this guy to pieces!

Just understand that sometimes we choose to do the thing we fear we cannot do. And this is something I considered NEVER doing. So I’m scared. I’m nervous. This has been such a hard story for this little lady to tell…

But I want to be strong for me. Strong for you. Strong for all the women who have been caged and broken and harmed and crushed.

I want to stand for all the ways we can heal and step forward – all the ways we can help each other and help ourselves. All the ways we can walk through our fears and be okay with the fact that we have them.

There’s nothing in this show to market – we aren’t going to sell anything or pitch anything. This is really just something I have to do and I would be honored if you would join me and just be present.

Vince will have his thousands of listeners, mostly men, and frankly it scares me to speak out into a void of strangers and so I would love to have some familiar souls and hearts there with me.

I’m not usually any stranger to a stage or microphone. I LOVE IT! But today is a very different story.

The show is tonight at 9pm EST / 6pm PST. You can listen online or via your phone. Check it out here:

http://bit.ly/f9Lulg

It will also be recorded and available for download.

Thanks and Much Love,
Jaime

Men have believed for eons that women are as uncharted, unknown and mysterious as the deepest reaches of oceans or space. I admit that many of us women agree – we barely know ourselves… or at least we feel that way at different times.

Why are women so hard to understand? I believe it’s because we live double lives: the woman we are for the world, and the unsung Self we keep hidden within.

Do you or a woman you know have a secret life? Find out.

The Double Life of Women

Here’s a video I released yesterday for my birthday that discusses the challenges we women face with our secret selves. Enjoy and I’d love to hear what you think! Please leave your comment on the video post linked above so everyone there can enjoy the conversation!

Alright I gotta fess up…

I had some grand plans for delivering a really different kind of post today because 11/11 is one of my favorite days of the year!

And THEN…

My good friend Mark Anthony Bates invited me last minute to a $20,000 mastermind – free of charge. How does a gal say no to that? Answer? You don’t.

So I’m sitting here in a room with 17 men and 3 women who are literally annihilating everything I thought I knew about how I want to approach my new women’s media brand I’m building (plus buckets of other snazzy ideas and tools!). So here’s what I’m thinking… I’ve planned a really cool video training series I’m going to release soon – FREE of course – and in the meantime here’s some brilliant highlights of what I’ve learned {at least the parts that are outside my sworn secrecy covenant }

Snazzy Websites, Apps and Tools

• Rockmelt: New browser that integrates social media. Just launched yesterday and is going to grab a ton of market space very quickly
• About.me: Your social calling card
• Focus Booster: Free desktop or online app
• Liquid Planner: I’m more a fan of Basecamp for project planning and organization, however here’s another good one people dig.
• Compete.com: Keep your enemies closer. Reverse engineer your competition. Know what keyterms get the best traffic… that draw visitors who stay longest on a website… see competitors’ top affiliates and get them sending you traffic… or reverse engineer someone’s traffic marketing campaign
• Quantcast Audience: identify the demographics around your best customers, identify where your buyers hang out (and find more just like them!)

I HEART Simple Social Outreach!

• Hootsuite: Does everything to automate, strategize and begin to optimize/monetize your social outreach
• ViralHeat: best social conversation and analytics (reputation management) system I’ve seen so far
• Social Oomph: Hootsuite plus some… seems to automate your viral growth even more – where hootsuite is focused on managing your outreach, this grows it

Fun stuff will be coming soon… PROMISE!

"Look deeeeep into my eyes" *Photo by Jennconspiracy*

First a few quick updates…

November is going to be a massive month! I’m kicking some things into high gear and that means a bunch of freebies coming your way {think of it like a Halloween Grab Bag O’ Treats you get to indulge in for the next 30 days – and without all the weight gain and cavities! }

• In two weeks I’m releasing the complete 100% revamped… rewritten… updated and awesomified version of my freelance product (based on the original Turbo Charged Consulting) and to celebrate I’ll be shelling out some kick ass videos and blog posts on the secrets and foundations of my consulting success.
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  Look out for strategic money-maker posts on exactly where to find hungry clients… laser-focused workshop posts on the components of your sales funnel like autoresponder emails… and the big one everyone’s been asking me for:
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  How I went from nearly broke and borderline homeless to making $100,000 in a single month… all in less than 12 months’ time!
  
• 11/11 is a special day for me. Yeah, I have a thing for numbers… {and cupcakes! } I’m planning a fun surprise for y’all on that serendipitous day so look out for that! (And no, it’s not to sell you something. I’ve got a whole other fun plan for that!)
• My 30th birthday is on 11/22. Can you believe it? ME. THIRTY. I have a very heart-felt, special announcement I’ll be making to you via video that day and I would be honored for you to be here and share it with me.
• Lastly, I’ve been invited to be interviewed on Sheila Gale’s upcoming star-studded teleseries: Your Life Is Your Message on January 4th. It’s part of a 12-week FREE series where you’ll hear from Doreen Virtue, Gregg Braden, Joe Vitale, Marci Shimoff, Arielle Ford and plenty others! So run over to this page here {do it now before you forget! It’ll open in a separate window} to get free access. The live calls are starting now and will continue into January. Definitely don’t miss these!

Okay now with updates out of the way…

Here are 4 ways you can woo new clients!

I’ll be sharing WHERE you can find new clients in about a week. I’ll teach you exactly what to say or do to open up the dialogue both online and offline in person (and without cold calling!). However in this article I want to share some tried and true tactics you can use anywhere, at any point, to woo clients (or some sexy gal or fella!) so they become your greatest fans.

Photo by Chris Halderman

Don’t call it uncertainty – call it wonder. ~ Osho

This article will first address the question of purpose and the natural fears that surround it. Then I will take you through the five basic steps you can take to live your purpose and profit from it.

Try not to skip the prior to dive into the latter… if you can help it. Of course I won’t hold it against you if you do.

At the end of life, we will often ask ourselves: “Did I matter? Did my living some how make a difference?”

For those of us who ask these questions sooner {like um… maybe now}, we find we are swimming in dark waters of insecurity and uncertainty. We sink into a fear that we won’t be enough, and such a fear can wear a thousand different faces.

At times like this Osho (a wonderful and slightly irreverent eastern mystic) celebrates, for he believes that we are not truly alive, cannot fully evolve, unless we are in the realm of the uncertain. “Don’t call it uncertainty,” he says. “Call it wonder.” This is where the magic happens. And you can absolutely do the thing you fear you cannot do.

This is also the realm of purpose. In many ways it is a call to step into the wild. And if you find your wonder clouded and stifled by stress, daily living and the grind of a job or duties you don’t enjoy…

Photo by Thomas Lieser

And the time came when the risk to remain tightly closed in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~ANAIS NIN

This started out as a very different post.

In my typical how-to fashion I was going to explain the steps I’ve been taking to live my message by journeying from broken to breakthrough. But half-way through I trashed it. I just can’t do it. Because it’s not what I want to write. I don’t want to sit here and tow the party line, saying that healing our traumas and our fractured pieces is easy. Because it just isn’t.

At least it hasn’t been for me.

The breaking point is different for everyone but we’ve all been there. So many of us are told that to be broken we must be devastated, unable to function and in need of serious assistance. And so we limp through life unaware and unable to begin the magnificent healing journey because we’re numb to the fact that anything’s broken in the first place. So instead we go through life already dead. And for what? And at what cost?

I’ll tell you right now: No one gets out of life without breaking. We’re not supposed to.

Breaking is another way of breaking open.

It is the path by which we break through.

And yes I know that facing your own abyss is not a tantalizing idea. I fought looking at mine for three years and I paid dearly for it physically and emotionally. I even almost robbed myself of the ability to have children.

We would rather believe we can have it all without ever again feeling the pains we’ve suffered, or acknowledging the bits and pieces we let die along the way. And hey I totally get it. As a marketer and writer I have had to live every day by the rule that  “they won’t hear it, use it, benefit from it if you make it sound painful, hard or difficult.”

But you know what? I’m FED UP with that line of thinking. And beginning today, I’m calling bull shit. (Read on to learn why)